Family Court examines difference between Discipline & Child Abuse

Justice Stewart Austin, pictured here in 2009, said the punishment inflicted by a father on his sons was "abuse", not discipline.

Justice Austin said the punishment was abuse.

When does physical discipline of a child become unlawful abuse?

The question arose in the case of a father who had beaten his two eldest children with a cricket bat, but who argued he should still be allowed to see his six-year-old son.

The boy lives with his mother, who opposed her estranged husband having any contact with their boy.

Both she and the father had previously smacked the boy, the Family Court in Newcastle heard. But the mother claimed he was at risk of physical abuse if left with the father, because of the way the man punished his older sons from a previous relationship.

Under the NSW Crimes Act, the defence of lawful correction permits a parent, or someone acting with their authority, to punish a child with physical force. But the force must be reasonable in light of the child’s age, health and maturity, as well as their alleged misbehaviour. Force applied to any part of the child’s head or neck, or elsewhere on their body in a way likely to cause harm “for more than a short period”, is not considered reasonable.

The court heard that from around the time they were aged aged six or seven, the father hit his two eldest sons with a cricket bat and once left them with bruises and welts after beating them with a broken broom handle. In what judge Stewart Austin called a description of “cruel brutality”, a sibling recalled hearing the boys beg for mercy and scream with pain, saw the bat used with such force it broke and saw welts on the boys’ bottoms.

The boys are now in their early teens and in state care. The three other children in the household had not been abused by the father.

In determining the case, Justice Austin said it was necessary “to differentiate between physical ‘discipline’ and physical ‘abuse'”.

“Despite modern society’s changing opinion about the morality of corporal punishment of children, the law of NSW still envisages the legitimate administration of physical discipline by an adult to a child, subject to certain constraints,” he said. “It is only when the discipline transcends those constraints that it becomes abusive and ceases to be lawful correction.”

Justice Austin described the two older boys as “very troubled children”, throwing objects, damaging property and “using weapons like knives, broken glass, hammers and loaded spear guns to threaten people”.

But the fact that their behaviour “presented an extraordinarily difficult parenting challenge was not an excuse for the severity of their treatment”, he said. Their punishment amounted to abuse and “criminal assaults”.

However, the judge granted the father unsupervised visits with his six-year-old son, ruling it was in the child’s best interests.

The father was not “so unfit as a parent that he is utterly incapable of safely caring for the child for short stints”, Justice Austin said. He noted that the father had undergone parenting courses and the little boy was unlikely to be as challenging as his older stepbrothers.

Man sues ex-fiancee to recover cost of engagement ring

engagement-ringA Canberra man launched legal action against his former fiancee in a bid to recoup the money he’d spent on her engagement ring after their relationship broke down.

The man had first contacted the Melbourne woman and her parents with a view to marriage in late 2014 and they got engaged the following year.

But the pair’s relationship soured, partly due to tensions over where they would live, and ended last October.

The man had asked his former fiancee to give back her engagement ring, as well as gifts from his parents, but he claimed the items were never returned.

He took the case to the ACT Civil and Administrative Tribunal, seeking to recover the cost of the ring and gifts.

Under the Marriage Act, a person can no longer sue for damages linked to social or economic loss arising out of a breach of a promise to marry.

But the law doesn’t apply to gifts given in anticipation of a marriage, meaning a person can try to recover an engagement ring, or its monetary value, if the recipient has broken off the engagement.

Section 111A of the Marriage Act 1961 provides as follows:

111A Abolition of action for breach of promise

  • (1) A person is not entitled to recover damages from another person by reason only of the fact that that other person has failed to perform a promise, undertaking or engagement to marry the first-mentioned person.
  • (2) This section does not affect an action for the recovery of any gifts given in contemplation of marriage which could have been brought if this section had not been enacted.

The man’s matter went to a hearing to decide whether the tribunal had jurisdiction to handle the case.

His application hinged on whether there had been a breach of the pair’s agreement to marry, and whether that breach had taken place in the ACT. This would bring into play section 22 of the ACT Civil and Administrative Tribunal Act 2009 (ACAT Act).

If the man’s bid failed, any further attempts to recover the gifts would need to be pursued under Victorian law, ACAT senior member Graeme Lunney said in his decision.

Mr Lunney noted there had been dispute about who had ended the relationship, saying the engagement failed after “unhappy differences arose over which there is great controversy”.

He said the phone conversation the pair had last October, when they had broken up, “was one between two people in a decaying relationship unable to find a way forward any further”.

He found there had not been a “unilateral withdrawal by one party in breach of a prior promise”, rather a recognition by two people that their relationship had reached a tipping point and was over.

“Consequently, in my view there was no ‘breach’ that occurred in the ACT which would give this tribunal jurisdiction in the proceedings brought by the applicant,” Mr Lunney said.

“It was mutual recognition of an unhappy state of affairs that was beyond repair. In those circumstances the tribunal lacks jurisdiction to adjudicate the dispute.”

Mr Lunney dismissed the man’s application. The parties were ordered to bear their own legal costs.

The decision is published online as Omari v Yassine (Civil Dispute) [2016] ACAT 112